Why we changed our minds about smacking

Summary (for those too lazy busy to read the whole thing). We’ve come to view treating¬†symptoms¬†(punishing) as far less effective than treating causes. We find punishment demeaning and disrespectful. Smacking a child for smacking (a common unacceptable behaviour) seems hypocritical. There’s plenty of evidence that suggests smacking causes more harm than good. There are plenty … Continue reading

Things I’ve learnt the hard way as a parent: Lesson two: you can’t change reality

Lesson two: you can’t change reality First aspect of reality? Lesson One. Much as we’d all love to be able to get out a user’s manual for our kids, it’s really our job to write that manual, with their help, so they can read it later on. Second aspect of reality? Perfection is impossible. This … Continue reading

Things I’ve learnt the hard way as a parent: Lesson Eleven: Getting ready to go out/tidying up etc doesn’t have to be a necessary evil.

With much reluctance I am slowly accepting the fact that being task orientated is not helpful when one is a full time mother. You know the biblical phrase “you can’t serve God and mammon”? In my case it’s more “you can’t serve God and be really efficient”. Well, maybe some people can – the ones … Continue reading

Things I’ve learnt the hard way as a parent

I’ve learnt lots of useful things over the last almost 3 years as a parent. Before I forget them or they become instinctive I thought I’d write them down. They might even help someone else out. Here’s the list. As I write each post I’ll kindly add a link so you can read more of … Continue reading